N.Y. L.I. - TEACHER, ROTHBARD, A SEXUAL PREDATOR......THE RIPPLE EFFECTS

Last week, Daniel Rothbard, a New York, Long Island (Suffolk County) teacher and camp counselor was accused and charged with felony charges of rape, criminal sexual act and sexual abuse and the misdemeanor, endangering the welfare of a child. Rothbard has pleaded not guilty.

Rothbard posed as a 17-year-old (actual age 28) on MySpace and used text messages to arrange "a meeting" with his alleged 15-year-old female victim. A police officer during a routine patrol discovered them having sex in a parked car at Westbrook Elementary School in West Islip.

Rothbard is now considered a sexual predator which describes a person seen as obtaining or trying to obtain sexual contact with another person in a predatory manner. A predator hunts down its prey, so the sexual predator is thought to “hunt” for his or her sex partners. People who commit sex crimes, such as rape or child sexual abuse, are commonly referred to as sexual predators.

Due to the fact that I am a parent and advocate, I stand strong in my defense for our children. Understanding of the ripple effect on many individuals (the victim; the family, friends, colleagues and ultimately the predator's family, and same) involved in this crime committed by a sexual predator is imperative. Over time we will look at numerous effects, the ripple effects of sexual abuse.

Today, my first concern is for the child/children. Unfortunately, this young lady and her friends are the first nor will they be the last. Many organizations are fighting strongly for our children and I commend each. Keeping the topic in the forefront, being diligent in our crusade, being harmed with the right information will help to assist our children and families affected by this crime.

Your support of your children will make a huge difference to her/him, the victim who has been sexually assaulted. Begin by letting your child know that you want to listen. It doesn't matter so much as to what you say but how you listen. Find time to be alone with her. Let her talk without interrupting her. Show interest in what she says by sitting close and facing her. Listen intently, look at her to let her know that you are still with her and listening. Let the stalls and silences happen, it's okay. If she needs help to continue talking, try to repeat back to her the things that she said. BELIEVE HER - people rarely make up stories about a sexual assault or the events leading up to the crime. Let her know that you care. This may be the first time any family member has every encountered such an ordeal. Your expression of sympathy is comforting to her.

Reassure her that SHE IS NOT TO BLAME. Blaming questions are not helpful. Instead, "This is a difficult time and we, together will get through it - we are family."

Let her be in control of who knows about the details of the sexual assault. Keep whatever she says between you, the police and the attorney are to be just that. She may not want to go to school until things have settled down - we can't blame her, can we? She may be treated differently by others now. Again, it must be instilled in her that she did not do anything wrong - and that she is the victim.

A ripple effect will be felt by the victim's family - this is an upsetting event for everyone. Some victims reject those who can be most helpful in this time of crisis. You may become rejected as a parent or friend because you are a clear reminder of the assault that she is trying so desperately to forget. Give her the time and space that she needs, she will return. It's important for you to take care of yourself too. But don't ever give up on her. Read her emotions, body language, verbalization - continue to love her unconditionally and allow the healing process to take place. Everyone heals and transitions in their own and time.

I encourage everyone to seek help and guidance from qualified licensed individuals to work through this horrific event in her life. With love and knowing that you know that it wasn't her fault will help tremendously.

One of the many ripple effects.

Thank God for his unconditional love which gives us continual strength.

Take care and STAY SAFE!
Anny Jacoby
A Success Survivor
The Realistic Female Self-Defense Company
"Raising female awareness and skills to reduce susceptibility in response to violence."
www.annyjacoby.com
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New Policy Permits Asylum for Battered Women - The New York Times

New Policy Permits Asylum for Battered Women

By JULIA PRESTON

Published: July 15, 2009

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The Obama administration has opened the way for foreign women who are victims of severe domestic beatings and sexual abuse to receive asylum in the United States. The action reverses a Bush administration stance in a protracted and passionate legal battle over the possibilities for battered women to become refugees.

In addition to meeting other strict conditions for asylum, abused women will need to show that they are treated by their abuser as subordinates and little better than property, according to an immigration court filing by the administration, and that domestic abuse is widely tolerated in their country. They must show that they could not find protection from institutions at home or by moving to another place within their own country.

The administration laid out its position in an immigration appeals court filing in the case of a woman from Mexico who requested asylum, saying she feared she would be murdered by her common-law husband there. According to court documents filed in San Francisco, the man repeatedly raped her at gunpoint, held her captive, stole from her and at one point tried to burn her alive when he learned she was pregnant.

The government submitted its legal brief in April, but the woman only recently gave her consent for the confidential case documents to be disclosed to The New York Times. The government has marked a clear, although narrow, pathway for battered women seeking asylum, lawyers said, after 13 years of tangled court arguments, including resistance from the Bush administration to recognize any of those claims.

Moving cautiously, the Department of Homeland Security did not immediately recommend asylum for the Mexican woman, who is identified in the court papers only by her initials as L.R. But the department, in the unusual submission written by senior government lawyers, concluded in plain terms that “it is possible” that the Mexican woman “and other applicants who have experienced domestic violence could qualify for asylum.”

As recently as last year, Bush administration lawyers had argued in the same case that in spite of her husband’s brutality, L.R. and other battered women could not meet the standards of American asylum law.

“This really opens the door to the protection of women who have suffered these kinds of violations,” said Karen Musalo, a professor who is director of the Center for Gender and Refugee Studies at the University of California Hastings College of the Law in San Francisco. Professor Musalo has represented other abused women seeking asylum and recently took up the case of L.R.

The Obama administration’s position caps a legal odyssey for foreign women seeking protection in the United States from domestic abuse that began in 1996 when a Guatemalan woman named Rody Alvarado was granted asylum by an immigration court, based on her account of repeated beatings by her husband. Three years later, an immigration appeals court overturned Ms. Alvarado’s asylum, saying she was not part of any persecuted group under American law.

Since then Ms. Alvarado’s case has stalled as successive administrations debated the issue, with immigration officials reluctant to open a floodgate of asylum petitions from battered women across the globe. During the Clinton administration, Attorney General Janet Reno proposed regulations to clarify the matter, but they have never gone into effect. In a briefing paper in 2004, lawyers for the Department of Homeland Security raised the possibility of asylum for victims of domestic violence, but the Bush administration never put that into practice in immigration court, Professor Musalo said.

Now Homeland Security officials say they are returning to views the department put forward in 2004, refining them to draw conditions sufficiently narrow that battered women would prevail in only a limited number cases.

“Although each case is highly fact-dependent and requires scrutiny of the specific threat an applicant faces,” said Matt Chandler, a spokesman for the Department of Homeland Security, “the department continues to view domestic violence as a possible basis for asylum in the United States.” He said officials hoped to complete regulations governing the complex cases.

The new policy does not involve women fleeing genital mutilation.

Any applicant for asylum or refugee status in the United States must demonstrate a “well-founded fear of persecution” because of race, religion, nationality, political opinion or “membership in a particular social group.” The extended legal argument has been whether abused women could be part of any social group that would be eligible under those terms. Last year, 22,930 people won asylum in this country fleeing all types of persecution; the number has been decreasing in recent years.

Because asylum cases are confidential, there is no way of knowing how many applications by battered women have been denied or held up over the last decade. The issue is further complicated by the peculiarities of the United States immigration system, in which asylum cases are heard in courts that are not part of the federal judiciary, but are run by an agency of the Justice Department, with Homeland Security officials representing the government.

The government has not disputed the painful history that L.R., now 42, recounts in a court declaration. The man who became her tormentor first assaulted her when she was a teenager and he was a physical education coach, 14 years her senior, at a high school in the Mexican state of Guanajuato. He and his family were regarded as wealthy and influential because they owned a restaurant in town, L.R. said.

Over the years, he made her live with him, and forced her to have sex with him by putting a gun or a machete to her head, by breaking her nose and by threatening to kill the small children of her sister. Once when she became pregnant, she said, she barely escaped alive after he had poured kerosene on the bed where she was sleeping and ignited it. He stole the salary she earned as a teacher and later sold her teacher’s license.

Local police dismissed her reports of violence as “a private matter,” the court documents said, and a judge she turned to for help tried to seduce her.

“In Mexico, men believe they have a right to abuse their women because they are like a possession,” she said. With three children born from her involuntary sex with the man, who never married her, she fled to California in 2004.

An immigration judge denied her asylum claim in 2006. In its new filing, the government urged that L.R.’s case be sent back to the immigration court for further review, suggesting she might still succeed. But the government also injected a caveat, insisting that “this does not mean that every victim of domestic violence would be eligible for asylum.”