Anny Jacoby Announces: Project Safe Girls

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Anny Jacoby, Founder/President of Realistic Female Self-Defense Company, is announcing an exciting new division of her company.

The “Project Safe Girls” is being spearheaded by Anny Jacoby and Bethany Corbin, recently designated as Head Educational Director. This new, innovative program is being geared towards middle school age girls in an effort to provide them with information and training to boost their confidence and self-esteem as they approach their teenage and dating years.

The program will help the girls feel empowered with knowledge about dating violence, how to spot dangers, listening to their intuition and the basics of self-defense.

“Project Safe Girls” is kicking off their first session in January 2010. They will be holding educational and training sessions at the Chapel Hill-Carrboro YMCA in Chapel Hill, NC from January through May for middle and high school aged girls.

“Project Safe Girls seeks to empower girls through the teaching of self-defense. By providing a supportive and energetic environment, participants will gain confidence and improve self-esteem while learning the basics and importance of safety!” says Bethany Corbin.

For more information please contact:

Bethany Corbin

Head Educational Director

bethany@projectsafegirls.com

919-225-1421

Police: Girl, 16, beaten to death by boyfriend

November 6, 11:48 AMChicago Crime ExaminerDeborah O'Malley

A 22-year-old man is charged in the beating death of his 16-year-old girlfriend in Chicago last week.

Trimane Jason Winters, of the 4000 block of West Jackson, is charged with first degree murder in the death of Desiree Holmes.

On October 29, Holmes was rushed to the hospital after complaining of severe stomach pain. She died while undergoing surgery for a lacerated liver, according to a Chicago police department press release.

Police say Winters made statements implicating himself in the beating. Police tracked down other witnesses who also said Winters beat Desiree.

Desiree was the mother of a 3-month-old baby, according to a report in the Chicago Tribune.

Men Stopping Violence

Men Stopping Violence is a social change organization dedicated to ending men's violence against women.

Men Stopping Violence works locally, nationally, and internationally to dismantle belief systems, social structures, and institutional practices that oppress women and children and dehumanize men themselves. MSV looks to the violence against women's movement to keep the reality of the problem and the vision of the solution before us. MSV believes that all forms of oppression are interconnected. Social justice work in the areas of race, class, gender, age, and sexual orientation are all critical to ending violence against women.

Reliable data including police reports, witness statements, and emergency room reports indicate that men are the predominant aggressors in over 90% of reported battering cases.

But you don't have to hit someone to batter that person.

Many people think battering is defined by how many times a man hits a woman. In fact, many men who complete our 6-month batterers program have never physically struck a woman. What they have done, however, is struck fear in a woman by using a wide range of controlling and abusive behaviors over a sustained period of time.

These behaviors result in her feeling sometimes devastated, often degraded and always hurt. For a more complete spectrum of battering behaviors read the violent and controlling behaviors checklist (see checklist below). You may find it useful to check the behaviors you or a friend have used. It's also instructive to note how often you have used them and how the person, or people, you have used them against have been affected emotionally and physically.

Remember, she may say and do things that upset and challenge you, but she can't make you attack her. The only person who can make you do that is you. The only person who can stop you is you.

Violent and Controlling Behavior Checklist
Physical Violence
____ Slap, punch, grab, kick, choke, push, restrain, pull hair, pinch, bite
____ Rape (use of force, threats to get sex)
____ Use of weapons, throwing things, keeping weapons around which scare her
____ Abuse of furniture, things in the home, pets, destroying her things
____ Intimidation (standing in the doorway during arguments, angry or threatening gestures, use of size to intimidate, standing over her, outshouting, driving recklessly)
____ Uninvited touching
____ Threats (verbal or nonverbal, direct or indirect)
____ Harassment (uninvited visits or calls, following her around, checking up on her, embarrassing her in public, not leaving when asked)
____ Isolation (preventing or making it hard for her to see/talk to friends, relatives, others)
____ Other (please list)

Psychological and Economic Abuse
____ Yelling, swearing, being lewd, raising your voice, using angry expressions or gestures
____ Criticism (name-calling, swearing, mocking, put-downs, ridicule, accusations, blaming, use of trivializing words or gestures)
____ Pressure Tactics (rushing her to make decisions, using guilt/accusations, sulking, threatening to withhold financial support, manipulating children, abusing feelings)
____ Interrupting, changing topics, not listening, not responding, twisting her words, going on and on
____ Economic coercion (withholding money, the car, or other resources; sabotaging her attempts to work)
____ Claiming "the truth," being the authority, defining her behavior, using "logic"
____ Lying, withholding information, infidelity (having sex with others)
____ Using pornography (e.g., magazines, movies, strip shows, home videos, etc.)
____ Withholding help on childcare/housework; not doing your share or following through on your agreements
____ Emotional withholding (not expressing feelings, not giving support, validation, attention, compliments, respect for her feelings, rights, and opinions)
____ Not taking care of yourself (not asking for help or support from friends, abusing drugs or alcohol, being a "people-pleaser")
____ Other forms of manipulation (please list)

(Adapted from EMERGE, Boston, Massachusetts)


If you are a victim of abuse confidential help is at your fingertips, call 1-800-799-SAFE. The National Coaltion Against Domestic Violence is there for you 7 days a week, 24-hours a day.

And Who Says That Insurance Companies Do Not NEED Regulation?????????

Domestic violence victims have a "pre-existing condition"?

Insurance companies have used the excuse of "pre-existing conditions" to deny coverage to countless Americans. From cancer patients to the elderly suffering from arthritis, these organizations have padded their profit margins by limiting coverage to patients deemed "high risk" because of their medical condition.

But, in DC and nine other states, including Arkansas, Idaho, Mississippi, North Carolina, North Dakota, Oklahoma, South Carolina, South Dakota, and Wyoming, insurance companies have gone too far, claiming that "domestic violence victim" is also a pre-existing condition.

Words cannot describe the sheer inhumanity of this claim. It serves as yet further proof that our insurance system is broken, destroyed by the profit-mongering of the very companies who's sole purpose should be to provide Americans with access to care when they need it most. In 1994, an informal survey conducted by the Subcommittee on Crime and Criminal Justice of the United States Senate Judiciary Committee revealed that 8 of the 16 largest insurers in the country used domestic violence as a factor when decided whether to extend coverage and how much to charge if coverage was extended.

It is clear that insurance companies refuse to police themselves. It's up to us to call on Congress to take action now to pass health care reform and end discrimination against patients with pre-existing conditions.

Take care and STAY SAFE!

Anny Jacoby

A Success Survivor

"Raising female awareness and skills to reduce susceptibility in response to violence."

www.annyjacoby.com

www.realisticfemaleselfdefense.com

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