STOP BEING SO PASSIVE, PROJECT AN AIR OF CONFIDENCE

Success in life is achieved by recognizing different challenges and adapting and responding to them appropriately. Realistic female personal safety relies on the same abilities. Each assailant and each victim is an individual, the circumstances of an assault will always be different; a guaranteed defense or strategy against a specific attack does not exist. However, if you educate yourself about the nature of the interaction between women and their assailants, you will be better equipped and prepared to stop potential assailants and to respond more effectively to every aspect of a potential attack.

In our training courses all students are simply amazed by how clearly they can protect and defend themselves while under an attack. Some females initially believe that they will not be able to think during the simulated attack (final class exercise that the student uses what she has learned mentally and physically-techniques against a male instructor wearing protective High Gear). Thinking, strategizing and adapting to situations as they change are as important as the physical defense skills. "Self-defense" means sending the right body and verbal signals before the assault/attack. During an assault it means empowering yourself by making decisions, not giving up and know that you can think your way through the experience. You can respond to an assault effectively.

There are two phases of an attack, "targeting" and "testing". The "targeting" stage the assailant searches for his victim. During this phase it is critical for females to possess confident and relaxed body language. Body language communicates how comfortable you feel about yourself. In personal safety/self-defense, effective body language conveys a sense of confidence. If you doubt that body language works, think about it from the assailant's perspective. If you were a man who attacks women, whom would you go after? A woman appearing weak, afraid or powerless or a confident woman? An assailant does not want to pick the confident woman because he attacks to demonstrate power and control. This man is insecure to begin with, he must search for a female whose behavior and/or actions would satisfy his needs. An assailant does not assault females who present a possible challenge. He picks a sure bet. If you convince him that you are not that woman, he will look elsewhere. Unfortunately, he can find a female who will fit his criteria.

Body language clearly communicates two things: first, the female is exhausted and/or too tired to protect herself; second, the female staring at the ground is afraid to look anyone in the eye or she is not aware of her surroundings. Either way she is an easy target.

Females have been raised to be entirely too passive. You have to possess a dare attitude, not cocky but confident. Eliminate the "I'm a victim" and "I'm a wimp" look. Think about how you portray yourself - how you carry yourself. It does not have to give the outward expression of negativity; you can give off an air of confidence. The physical and mental signals that you want to send to everyone, especially a potential assailant is......"Don't even think about it. I am not something to be messed with."

There are ways to walk more safely. Keep your head up, look ahead, drop your shoulders (no hunching). Walk with a relaxed step (not too long or too short) and keep your hands out of your pockets. In your mind compare a female looking down at the ground and the one just described. Who is the easier target? Who appears more vulnerable? These changes in your outward expression may be trivial or minor but they make an enormous difference.

Assailants choose their victims similar to how predators choose their prey. They always go after the sick, isolated, young or old because they are an easy kill. Consider potential assailants as animals that will prey on you if given the opportunity. If you look strong, alert and healthy you have a much better chance of being left alone.




Take care and STAY SAFE!
Anny Jacoby
A Success Survivor
The Realistic Female Self-Defense Company
"Raising female awareness and skills to reduce susceptibility in response to violence."
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