GI Jane Type Woman, Myths=Excuses/Facts=Reality

Most women think/feel that if they elect to engage in a personal safety/self-defense training that it will make them aggressive, hostile or perhaps masculine. I've heard many times, "but I don't want to be like GI Jane!". As you can tell, I hear all kinds of "excuses" but when "reality" is explained and talked about-all women "get it". It's awesome when you experience "light bulb moments".

Of course females don't want to be brutes, fighting machines or "warriors" - this is completely understood in the personal safety world. Personal safety does convey a sense of aggression or pro-violence as you are trained to physically fight back. The "warrior spirit" must kick in, if attacked - attack back. One must be trained to know the windows of opportunity in order to effectively use personal safety training effectively.

If you are in fear for your life, you have every right to protect and defend yourself. With that being said, there is a time and place for everything. If someone walked up to you in a department store or the grocery store and out-of-the blue slapped you for no reason, slapped your face, you wouldn't respond by smiling and politely asking why he slapped you. You would want to slap him back use some distinguished choice of words when you retaliated. This does not mean that you have hostile temperament; you simply responded to attack. Furthermore, no one has the right or possess a "reason" to harm another person in any manner.

You must use personal safety/self-defense training for the RIGHT reasons. If you are seeking training because you want to kick ass, you are doing it for the wrong reasons and you will become more hostile and aggressive. Negative feelings/thoughts are created from negative reasons/motives. Here's an example, If you were walking to your car in a deserted parking lot late at night and you see a man who merely "looks suspicious" in your eyes, would you wind up and hit him just in case? Personal safety/self-defense is training to learn awareness and learning immediate reactionary measures to protect oneself.

Learning personal safety/self-defense does not promote aggression and hostility but rather makes one more aware and confident of oneself.

Ronald Smith, a UW psychology professor and coauthor of the a study found, "people who feel vulnerable often use hostility and violence to protect themselves. They almost adopt the attitude that "the best defense is a good offense." However, the women in the study who learned personal safety/self-defense reported feeling more assertive, but less hostile and aggressive."

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