PERSONAL SAFETY/SELF-DEFENSE IS NOT USED TO FIGHT........IT'S USED TO DEFEND

No two assaults, threatening situations are identical. No two experiences of abuse or assault are the same. That is why it is imperative for personal safety/self-defense courses to include and offer within their program scenario based training. Instructors should role play with the students to incorporate their worse fears of attacks.

Personal Safety/self-defense is NOT used to fight; it's used to defend. An attack is not a ten round boxing fight or a wrestling match; personal safety/self-defense techniques have been developed for the sole purpose of "incapacitating your attacker long enough for you to escape".

THE ELEMENT OF SURPRISE!

Again, remember there are no guarantees. No personal safety/self-defense instructor can or will guarantee 100% that their style will let you escape every dangerous situation. However, you can be guaranteed that there are techniques that work. You can undermine an attacker's intimidation with the element of surprise.

An attack (ambush) usually happens without warning - you have zero seconds to prepare. There is nothing leading up to the attack (ambush) unlike in an abusive relationship (Power and Control, verbal, emotional abuse). Any type of attack makes a victim panic, feel fearful and she will become frozen in fear and hysterical. An assailant expects his victim to response by screaming or flailing about. While screaming works in drawing attention, it won't help if there isn't anyone around to listen. Kicking, punching or scratching without having a target in mind only wastes energy and valuable time.

You must turn the tables on an assailant. The best thing to do if you are attacked is to remain calm by controlling your fear. Instead of letting the panic overwhelm you to the point that you freeze, understand that what is happening is real and that you have no choice but to defend yourself. If you are in fear for your life, you have every right to protect and defend yourself. You can fight back or become another victim of crime. By striking back at an opportune time, you will throw an assailant off-guard because he does not expect you to know how to defend yourself. He does expect you to scream, beg, cry and cower. When you do strike in self-defense, his reaction time immediately slows down significantly.

You make him vulnerable and you buy yourself time to get away. Run like HELL in the opposite direction!

Take care and STAY SAFE!

Anny Jacoby

A Success Survivor

"Raising female awareness and skills to reduce susceptibility in response to violence."

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