INTIMIDATION ...... Myths = Excuses, Facts = Realities

Intimidation (also called cowing) is intentional behavior "which would cause a person of ordinary sensibilities" fear of injury or harm. It's not necessary to prove that the behavior was so violent as to cause terror or that the victim was actually frightened."The calculated use of violence or the threat of violence to attain goals political, religious, or ideological in nature...through intimidation, coercion, or instilling fear" can be defined as terrorism.

"I'm too little. I'm too weak. I'm too small. My assailant could be twice my size and it would be physically impossible to fight!" These are true and concerns of many females every single day.

Physical strength and size appear to be the only factors in determining "the winner of the fight". We look at the size, facial structure/features, physical appearance and we (females) are automatically "intimidated" by his size and presumed strength.

You have to keep in mind that winning does not directly relate to size or strength; it's about how you USE YOUR KNOWLEDGE TO YOUR ADVANTAGE. In personal safety/self-defense we do not fight his strengths; we fight an assailant's weaknesses. Personal safety is not a "sparring match", it's about using your mind to determine your assailant's vulnerability and to/how to strike defensively. There are many target areas on a human body that are extremely vulnerable. You have to keep in mind that your own physical strength lies in the POWER OF YOUR MIND to use it correctly and to be strategic to to your advantage.

Personal safety is not about the sole use of your physical abilities or strength to control someone larger than you. Often with the concerns mentioned above, these concerns can affect your positive mental state by creating doubt in oneself. You have to believe in yourself and push the fears and distractions to the back of your mind that keep you from making steady and consistent progress to reach our attainable goal. If not, they can rob you of your energy and time.

It is your mind (your greatest weapon) that allows you to focus on an assailant's weaknesses and not his strengths. You must understand the power of mental strength - greater and more effective than physical strength. Unlike weapons - you don't need to make special accommodations for battling an assailant with your mind; IT'S WITH YOU ALL OF THE TIME!. You don't have to reach for it, you don't have to look for it. Your mind is with you all of the time, in order to use it effectively and to your benefit you need to understand some general rules to mentally prepare yourself for personal safety:

• Obtain Personal Safety training.
  
• You must give yourself permission to fight back.
• Believe that you can physically fight back.
• Control your FEAR; do not allow it to control you.
• Turn panic into reaction.

Take care and STAY SAFE!
Anny Jacoby
A Success Survivor
The Realistic Female Self-Defense Company
"Raising female awareness and skills to reduce susceptibility in response to violence."
www.annyjacoby.com
www.realisticfemaleselfdefense.com




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